The Urban Dictionary defines Stepford Wife as a term used “to describe a servile, compliant, submissive, spineless wife who happily does her husband’s bidding and serves his every whim dutifully.”  Hold on a sec, while I pick myself up off the floor and wipe away my tears of hysteria.  

I decided to name this blog “Anything But Stepford”, because I wholeheartedly live a life that is  the polar opposite of this mythical Stepford wife, and so it makes me laugh.  I am not described by ANY of the words used in this definition (except “wife”).  I am a feminist. I am bold and unapologetic.  I am pierced, tattooed and have chameleon hair that changes color frequently.  And I am unabashedly my own independent person with opinions and perspectives that differ greatly from those of my husband.  Maybe one step more opposite would be if I were also a lesbian, but hey, I like some special masculine things he has to offer!  My husband is an officer, and I take pride in the fact that I don’t fit any stereotypes of what some people think an officer’s spouse might be, which is what first made me think of Anything But Stepford for my blog name. God bless those women who can be Stepford, but it sure ain’t me!!

I write this to share experiences that can hopefully benefit others and possibly save someone else some heartache or stress, and also to enlighten and possibly amuse readers with shared experiences.  My goal is to always be honest, authentic and hopefully meaningful, while possibly sprinkling in a little humor.  I will be blunt and want to share the non-PC version of things…things you don’t learn at meetings, briefs or get-to-know-you socials.  I am not that person who posts about her “perfect” life on Facebook.  I am a real, flawed and slightly high strung female who almost always has something to say!  Haha.  And I know myself!! 

My perspective is from a military background, as my husband is in the Navy.  We have 4 kids, 2 older ones I call the Bigs, and two younger ones I call the Littles.  We’ve been married almost 15 years and have been together 18 years.  The number of military moves and deployments we’ve weathered has started to blur…I guess at one point you just stop counting because it gets a little overwhelming. We’ve lived together in Virginia, California (3 times), Rhode Island, Nebraska and Japan.

I hope you enjoy this little blog!!  Welcome….and please subscribe, so you can laugh at me as I pick myself up off the floor again and again!!

Cheers and love!


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